It's been one of those days! Mama has spent most of it crying, which is so stupid since it's mostly an ego thing.
Aiman's birthday is on July 28, so he meets the cut of for school by just a month. We decided in October that we were going to go ahead and keep him back a year for maturity reasons and to put him ahead instead of behind. I am very happy with our decision.
Right now Aidman is in a 4 year old preschool class (9-12, Tues & Thurs) and will be in a different 4 year old preschool class next year (9-12, M,W,F).
The past 2 weeks Aidman's school has been doing assessments of the children. I had a talk with the teacher today and even though I'm happy with my decision and I KNOW this, it's so hard to hear that your kid is BEHIND the rest of the class.
The hardest part for me is that fact that we work so hard on the things that he is "behind" on (ABC recognition, sounds, and writing) and he is STILL not getting it. Part of me thinks that he was just goofing off for the assessments because I KNOW that he knows more than he let on for the teachers and that he doesn't like to be put on the spot, but I also know that he isn't where he should be which is why we are giving him an extra year of preschool.
I have also been strongly considering homeschooling, but after this I just don't know if I'm good enough for it. His teachers tell me that I'm doing over and beyond what many parents do, but it just doesn't feel that way when there's not much sign of improvement over the last few months.
And to make me feel worse about being down today of all days, it's my anniversary. Daddy and I have been happily married for 7 years today!
3 comments:
First of all, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! ;)
It doesn't matter how much you work with a child on a particular skill--he will not get it until he's developmentally ready. My son didn't even START talking until he was almost 3! There is NOTHING I could have done to make him talk sooner, though at the time it totally stressed me out! It's the same with ABC's/123's, etc. Give him time and continue to expose him to all types of things. When he's ready--he'll fly. :)
We're in the same boat with Matthew - He'll always be one the youngest since his birthday is July 7th. Jonathan & Emily are the oldest in their classes. We still have a few years, but may end up having to make the same decision you had to. Anyway, keeping him back one year is a great idea! He'll just have turned 6 when Kindergarten starts, which to me, is when I think they are most ready. You will see him flourish and be ready for kindergarten with flying colors. Don't beat yourself up over it! You're a wonderful Mom and really do go above and beyond working with them.
Chrissy
I know that stuff like that is difficult to hear. I've been in that situation, and have even been on the teachers end of that situation. Keep doing what you're doing Mama. Even if on the tests, or maybe even at home, not showing that he's getting it- he is. It will click eventually and he'll start spewing everything that you taught him out. Every child is different. Just working with him, makes a world of a difference. You're a good Mom~
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